All mothers are striving to be a “good mom.” What is the true definition? I would say if you asked a hundred women you would get a hundred answers. What if being a good mom is being the best version of yourself. The recipe of being a good mom is 50% putting your kids first and 50% making sure you are on the top of your list. How does that make sense? We have been taught it’s 100% of putting kids first. Hear me out.
Putting your children first may be important when they are little, but as they grow we become their example. Our children will take in far more of what we show them than what we tell them. Do you respect yourself? If you want your children to follow their dreams and respect their own boundaries, then show them what that looks like.
Do not be afraid to show them your weakness or your sin. Some of the best conversations with my children have been sharing my mess ups. They feel close to you as you reveal your weakness. What they will see is you are human. You get life is hard and perfection is not the goal.
Bring them in on your growth. As you develop and mature, share what you have learned and what is important to you. As our children grow into adults, they can be great teachers themselves. You do not have to have all the answers.
Inspire your grown children by living your best life.